Ultimately everybody’s looking to get to the next level, and for many men in New York, a larger woman is the bottom level, regardless of what she’s like.There’s a misconception that plus-size girls are insecure in their bodies.*** I was on a date recently and a woman sat down at the next table, catty-corner to me. But what’s most visible about me, what defines me before I even open my mouth, is my size.I was embarrassed and annoyed, already contemplating how I was going to get out at the end. I’ve dieted my whole life and can’t remember a time when I wasn’t concerned about my weight.And a lot of men who are attracted to plus-size women love the feeling of weight.There’s the whole dominant-submissive side of fetishizing a plus-size woman, wanting her to be in control, to be physically bigger.I grew up with a mother who told me I was amazing, who said I could accomplish whatever I wanted to. But when I was a teenager, she also started saying, “You need to lose weight.It will be harder when you get older to find your partner.” I went to weight-loss camp when I was young and was introduced to boys and the bases.
Some jerk once IMed and asked, “Are there really guys out there who are attracted to you?
I grapple with the term because what’s the difference between a fetish and a preference?
I once went out with a guy I met on Nerve, then didn’t hear from him again.
Yes, there have been times I’ve felt uncomfortable at bars because guys talk to my friends and not me, and if I notice a group of men snickering at me, that always makes me upset. When I started on BBW (Big Beautiful Women) dating sites, I got crazy amounts of e-mails.
Before that, I didn’t understand that there were people out there who preferred a round body with curves and boobs and a butt and lots of fat.I’ve had really in-shape guys, bodybuilders even, contact me.