Like an agreement or an acknowledgement or membership in a (not-so) secret club–a club called ‘lesbians.’ It’s a “you’re gay, I’m gay” kinda thing. No one’s going to believe in your game if you don’t believe in your game (even if you’re not the gaming type). Seriously, whoever you’re talking to is going to read off your cues, and so if you’re putting yourself down or always apologizing, she’ll believe you have reason to do so.
The scene inside chat rooms is like a bar, though anonymity helps lower inhibitions in ways that alcohol can only dream of.
As far as saying nice things go, that’s pretty self-explanatory. When the Spice Girls told this to baby gay KC Danger over ten years ago, I had no idea how relevant this would be. I mean, some girls are this lucky, but most probably aren’t. Come on bros, just by being out you’re fighting the good fight and resisting the patriarchy etc. Don’t take this risk, you may end up committing an interrobang!