Still, online dating can represent an opportunity in exploration, both of yourself, and of the world around you, explains Dr.
Dan Gottlieb, a therapist living with spinal cord injury. Gottlieb is the author of the upcoming book The Wisdom We're Born With: Restoring Faith in Ourselves."I recommend approaching online dating openly," he explains.
"At first, I didn't, and that didn't go over well with people once they found out.
And then I did, and I received messages from creepers with fetishes for people in wheelchairs.
However, through a very selective process and luck, she has met a "few good guys." She now uses e Harmony instead, but has yet to make a romantic match. Once she became more self-confident and selective, she started to meet great people.
Kuen's advice for daters living with disabilities is simple, but profound: "Don't sell yourself short.
"Be awake and aware as you start your journey, and you will learn a lot about what people are like and how they react to you, and you will also learn a lot about yourself, and what you're attracted to.
"I always put in my profile that I'm a quad, I just figured I should be fair and upfront about it.
In addition to mainstream dating sites such as Match.com, e Harmony, and Ok Cupid, there are sites tailored to those living with disabilities such as Dating4Disabled and e Date Ability.
Of course, many people with paralysis have very specific wants and needs for meeting a prospective partner, as well as their own unique fears and trepidations that come with entering the online dating scene.
I wanted whomever it was to know what they were getting into.
If they'd really wanted to date me, I'd know it was because they liked me, for me."An epidemiologist by trade, Ami was familiar with the day to day that people living with paralysis experience, so this didn't bother her.If the right person comes along, they will come along. Be open, be patient, and be hopeful, but not hopelessly romantic. "The Budding Romance About a month and a half ago, Rochester, New York thirty-somethings Luticha Doucette and Don Schlaich met on Ok Cupid.