"In fact, a couple may disagree substantially on this issue,'' she said."In my job, I sometimes counsel young people and a lot of times they say: 'Oh well, we’ll just bracket that question for now.' "But sometimes people actually have pretty strong feelings about whether they will or won’t have children. So they should ask: 'Well, what can you imagine your life might be like in 10 years? ' Of course, both this general advice and the specific tips apply to men as well as women.When it comes to choosing a mate, I heard again and again: Choose carefully.Looking back over their long experience, they believe some women are not careful enough.So please, tell younger people: When it comes to marriage, don’t rush into things. I could have made a major difference in my life if I had chosen my husband carefully, really gotten to know him before committing to the relationships. You think nowadays that you can get out of it easily, but that’s not always the case." Many women attributed their success to careful mate selection.Lillie, 78, was married for 22 years and divorced for the past 35.
Editor's note: Emmanuel Macron is a favorite to win the French presidential election this Sunday, but he's making headlines for more than his political success.
They offered the following strategies to help make the right choice: The elders suggest you think about whether your future spouse will be a “good provider.” It’s an old-fashioned term, but it embodies a fundamental truth: marriage may be about love, but it’s also an economic arrangement that unites the financial futures of the partners. The elders told story after story of having to carry the economic load and handle someone else’s debts and bad financial decisions.
So women (and men, too) need to ask: Does my prospective mate like to work? You don't need to make the choice entirely on your own, older women say.
At 64, Macron's wife Brigitte is 24 years older than him.
They first met when he was 15 and she was a 39-year-old teacher at his school.I was in my 30s at that point, and I said 'Hmm, you know, this is what I want.' And this guy had those qualities — many more good ones than bad ones.