After the standard kampai (cheers), everyone offers a brief self-introduction.
Then you simply talk freely, usually about topics of common knowledge.
They have a hard time reading the other person, they're very direct, and are often perceived as annoying.
On a first date, for example, they're capable of talking about marriage." Nomi Wenkert, a sex education counselor who works with people with disabilities and oversaw the planning of the event, said it is important to provide a social setting geared toward the needs of people with certain disabilities because in a standard setting, seemingly simple things like the rules of conversation can be difficult for them to grasp.
"People with social constraints have a hard time understanding dating codes and behavior we take from granted, such as what constitutes too much information," she said.
"In general, they're not adept at natural rules of conversation such as who talks, when and how much, when you start talking and when it's time to listen, making eye contact, or being polite even to people who don't attract us.
These mysterious gokon quickly take on the image of a sort of regulated speed dating ritual that all Japanese people know.
The kanji will get the ball rolling by separating the men and women into groups of equal size (3:3 and 4:4 are common).