Since I was introduced to the term by an old roommate, I’ve called every guy I’ve dated for more than a few dates, my “Non Boyfriend” (Non-BF), partially because I just didn’t know whether it would be ok for me to call them my boyfriend, and also because I am a commitment-phobe and never know whether or not I actually WANT to call someone my boyfriend, even if they are. Because of this, in your dating life span you can have very few BFs and many Non-BFs (helping you keep your “BF number down” much like the recyclables in the “sea” help keep your “sxy number” down).You don’t have to let the world know what type of Non-BF your current Non-BF is.
And even though my friends and the media, including Ryan Seacrest, have referred to him as my boyfriend. But what type of Non-BF they are can vary in a wide spectrum.During the date he is 100 percent there, but when the date is over he’s only 10 percent there. I want you to know that I can understand how frustrated you might be in your situation, but also want to shed some light on what may be going on.If anything, when he does reply to my e-mail they seem a bit impersonal. To answer your question directly, a relationship should become exclusive when both parties are ready to make that kind of commitment to one another.So while you seem to be ready for that level of commitment in a relationship, he is not. Your question seems to bring into question the idea that e Harmony matches should only date exclusively right from the start.
e Harmony members are looking for lasting love, but there are different ways of finding it.In fact, using the term loosely is sort of the point. But you fulfill all of your sexytime desires with said person.